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My History with Sexual Predators

10 Friday Nov 2017

Posted by wendelmeldrum in humour

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The unearthing  of so much sexual harassment and assaults, with victims at last being believed, is creating an opportunity for the ancient roots of sexual bullying to be brought into the light. The turmoil of victims stating their truths and exposing the abusers actions is creating a harrowing yet liberating cultural experience that everyone is effected by.  Do I dare hope that this upheaval will have a lasting awakening? I hope it with every cell.

I was groomed by a pedophile between the ages of 7 and 8. I was injured on every layer of my being.  I worked through it quietly and persistently on my own as I didn’t trust any cultural institutions.  Like so many with these experiences it robbed me of my voice, I felt I would be killed if I spoke up, told my truth.  I persisted with a weight to every step.

So far I have made two films with my friends and community. One, twenty years ago, called ‘Teeth’  was about a woman’s transformation of fear.

Below is the raw footage of a scene from a self defense class. At the time I was a Martial Artists and had grown from a student who would have to sit out crying on occasion because of ‘all the hitting’,  to a serious student. The scene shows how overwhelming the stats are when you start learning to defend yourself.

I owe my training to how I handled a situation that came up at work. I had been hired to play an international hit woman on a TV show. There was a scene where I had handcuffed the hero to a bed and did a strip tease to ‘threaten’ him. I had a rider that I would have a body double if needed or that it would be off camera. The day that I arrived on set I went to sit with the director. We talked a bit about the character and then he turned to me and said, ‘I know the strip tease is off camera but would you do it naked to give the crew a thrill’. I felt a shock in my body, then turned to him and calmly said, ‘You know what your job is don’t you?  It’s to protect me from statements like that. And that strip tease scene is not threatening. She should be sitting on him and he should be wondering if she is going to fuck him or kill him. You can do it in two shots and it will save you time.’ We ended up doing the scene just like that. I highly recommend studying Martial Arts in any form.

Ten years ago I made a film called ‘Cruel But Necessary’ which is a film about a women  who begins to deconstruct the culture when her marriage breaks apart.

She works in HR and this scene is her tricking a sexual harasser.

https://vimeo.com/242330718

You can see the whole film at wendelmeldrum.com

There are so many people to thank for how we got here today. Every story that was told, every person that believed someone and offered support, all the people that put laws in place so there is cultural boundary and consequence.  All the people that see with new eyes. Millions of small actions by millions of good people. Many more steps to go.  It’s going to be messy but the time is now, the place is here. Onward.

 

 

 

Jane Sanders vs Melania Trump

14 Monday Nov 2016

Posted by wendelmeldrum in Beauty, Culture, humour, politics, Women

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feminism, Hilary Clinton, Jane Sanders, Melania Trump, Politics, White House

During the primaries, I supported Bernie and his ideas. A friend who also liked his ideas remarked that Bernie wasn’t presidential and that his wife Jane shouldn’t be in the White House as she didn’t have class so would not vote for him. I thought Jane would be a wonderful First Lady.

We had two very different woman that were at one point up for being the female image of the White House. Certainly, if Bill had become the First Gentleman his choice of suit or hair style would not have been discussed. I have a feeling that Michele Obama will be happy to have her fashion duties down graded and our interest in what she thinks upgraded. Hillary went with a fancy Angela Merkel/Michelle Bachelet style. A woman running the big show doesn’t seem to make time for bells and whistles.

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We have Melania now. Let me give my disclaimer. I don’t really care what people wear, do to their hair, or what their fashion sense is. That being said, having a body, I have some experience about what it is to take care of one’s person and have an identity that is partly built on one’s image. Just like you do.

I feel for Melania.  English is her second language and those speeches must have been terrifying.  And all those that posted her naked picture to shame her need a rethink. A naked woman being a symbol for ridicule, for disgust, for being outcast is perhaps the biggest absurdity of our culture. We all come into this world from the body of a woman and yet its identity is largely controlled by the male gaze. Ladies are you sporting that male gaze?

Some Women, like I imagine Melania does, spend a great deal of time perfecting their appearance in order to control how others see them – as some ideal and perfect beauty.  A woman can feel her survival and safety depend on her image and not on her awakening discourse. Hmmm.

I had wanted Jane Sanders to be the First Lady. I had wanted her to be the female image in the White House and the International voice of an American woman.  Jane seemed a bit shellshocked by being tossed into the spotlight but just grabbed what was in her closet, ran a comb through her hair and quickly gathered up her ideas that she had been living her whole life and spoke.

I had wanted Poncho not Pucci, one lipstick not a team of beautifiers, loafers not stilettos, eco-sac not emu clutch, home cookin’ not fine dining, gardening not shopping, crafts not brands, comfort not control, someone who is a woman because she wakes up one not two hours of trowel and wand, because wouldn’t that be a sweet ride for America to wrestle with.

I am going to chop off my hair and continue to look deeply at the agency of my own consciousness. Because each consciousness has the ability to rethink what we believe, taking the best and leaving the rest. Perhaps our old self cannot truly be left behind but it can be shrunk as new ways are built by thought, by word, by deed.

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The Last Podcast and Punching

26 Friday Aug 2016

Posted by wendelmeldrum in Culture, humour

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Douglas Coupland, Feral, George Monbiot, Kitten Clone, Patricia Roxama, Yogananda

Have wrapped up the monologuing I’ve been doing with Patric Caird. So appreciative of all the listeners and warmth that came my way as I continue expanding this philosophy. I will now go to another level and put it into a different form.

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/what-is-woman-because…its/id1088536792?mt=2

‘One more punch. Always give one more punch’.

That’s a quote from a Yogananda booklet on success that a friend of mine left at my house many moons ago. I thought, ‘Yeah, Meditating Yoga Dude, that’s how real life is, it needs punches.’  So, even if you are only able to punch in your imagination…punch.

The book I recommend is Feral by George Monbiot  It’s a great read and speaks to rewilding nature vs conserving nature. Informative, hopeful and real.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17160008-feral

The film I recommend is Into the Forest by Patricia Rozema which I wrote a blog about and want to give it another shout out. It  gets called a chick flick instead of ‘hey check out this film’. And so it goes.

https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/into_the_forest/

Also just read Kitten Clone by Douglas Coupland who has a masterful voice regarding culture.

https://www.amazon.ca/Kitten-Clone-Alcatel-Lucent-Douglas-Coupland/dp/0345814118

I wish you many good punches.

Competition vs Community

04 Thursday Aug 2016

Posted by wendelmeldrum in humour

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People give up bread for lent or fast for Ramadan.   In that spirit I have decided to give up competitive thought, word and deed for the rest of the voting season. This includes competing with myself.To give up something that is so entrenched in our culture will be a challenge so I have given myself something to shift into  every time I bust myself in a competitive mode. I will shift into community minded thought.

compete –strive to gain or win something by defeating or establishing superiority over others who are trying to do the same.

community – a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals.

There is a flag right off the bat, ‘sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals’. To think with a mind towards community I have to seek what I have in common with others not what I have that is different.

What are the elements of competing that we have in our culture? Well we have  testing, sports, games, gambling, being right,  worshipping hero’s,  masking insecurity by putting others down , market place competition, weighing and measure ourself and others against a mythical perfection, dieting, exercising and that big Magilla competing for attention – in families, the arts, business, charities, conversations, ideas, religions, politics, friendships, body image, status. Our own ideas competing for attention within us.

Is competing ‘just how things are’, is it the truth of human nature? I don’t think so. It feels like a runaway cultural meme.  We have downloaded Darwin’s ‘survival of the fittest’ idea for so long that his ideas about altruism and survival can’t find a root.

So I will be scanning myself to see how I come together with others and with my smaller community of me, myself and I with it’s dueling banjo soundtrack.

With my vote I want to reflect what is best for community not competition so while the madness continues I will clean my own house.

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Episode #5 – ‘Saddest History Ever’

23 Saturday Apr 2016

Posted by wendelmeldrum in Child development, History, humour, Parenting, Psychohistory

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Child development, female empowerment, history of childhood, Human body, Joseph Chilton Pearce, parenting for a peaceful world, Robin Grille

When I was a teenager I read ‘Holy Blood, Holy Grail’. It was a retelling of the story of Jesus by three different scholars using historical data. I didn’t come from a religious family but was aware of the basic plot points of the biblical Jesus. The thrill of having my brain scaffolding of ‘what I thought was true’ collapse from factual repatterning is something that I have sought out ever since. Robin Grille’s book ‘Parenting for a Peaceful World’ was one of those books. It is shocking and loaded with information that I feel is important to know. If you dare get yourself a copy.

In the book, Grille, mentioned a man, Lloyd de Mause, as being someone who he was getting information from. So, now this is some ten years ago, I went to New York City and met Lloyd in a coffee shop. He had a soft spoken passion and seemed like a man who was worn from swimming against the main stream. He gave me some literature and I signed up for a year of his newsletter. He was a corner stone for an international movement of historians relooking at all things ‘childhood’.

For many years,  my bedside table Bestie has been the books of Joseph Chilton Pearce. His ground in the truth about childhood development it essential reading. I was honoured to introduce him as a speaker when I hosted the 50th anniversary of the Highland Hall Waldorf school.

So, I present, Episode #5…for you.

You can got to itunes –

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/what-is-woman-because…its/id1088536792?mt=2

Or just click on the podcast link above.

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Thank you.

Podcasting

08 Tuesday Mar 2016

Posted by wendelmeldrum in humour, Podcast, Women

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female empowerment, feminism, Human body, PinkyLuxSchool

I decided to expand on the ideas in the book that I wrote from this blog. I had thought a theatre piece was next but it turned out podcasting was the next expansion and here it is. It’s serialized and meant to be heard sequentially. There are two episodes so far, each about 15 minutes long. I plan to launch an episode every two weeks.

If you are curious as to how they turned out you can connect below or click the podcasting button at the top of the page. Your listening and feedback would be much appreciated.

http://itsabsurdtobeawomanonplanetearthetc.com/

 How it all happened.

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 After some research I bought a blue-yeti mike, a mike stand and a mike cover.  That cost about 150 dollars and my husband had a mike stand. It’s important for sound quality to have the mike suspended as otherwise it will pick up noise from your desk and probably computer. I got advice from my brother-in-law John who podcasts and led me to some tutorials and helped with the initial sorting out which turned out to be quite horrible.

I had decided at the same time to rebuild my old website which was floating in the ethers since mobile me stopped operating at the same time I lost my website info on a computer transfer years ago. This created much confusion and the help person on my hosting site would tell me one things and it would screw things up and then tech help at GoDaddy where my domain was would tell me something else. It makes for a very terrible feeling in the brain to sit there hour after hour hitting dead ends and not being able to find that one little thing that is particular to your situation that will enable you to be up and running technically.

Once I was done reclaiming my website, I built my site in an hour and was then able to dive right into podcasting hell where Dean, who was my tech support on wordpress.com actually called me brave, so I must have sounded like I had scrambled brains even on ichat. The trouble with tutorials and people as well is that it is likely that your situation is unique somehow and one missing piece will lock you out of forward progress.

I recorded on the Audacity program which was free and very simple. It took a very few tests to settle on mike volume and how far to be from the mike. Then I sent my files to Patric Caird and we spent about 90 minutes a day for four days adding music and sound effects. It went fairly smoothly and we found that more often than not  the music we pulled from his library would fit perfectly with the dialogue. In each episode there was one place that became a boondoggle and took up the whole ninety minute session. He has a sound effects library as well and we added those as we went along.

Putting it up on itunes was another bit of hell. I couldn’t even find someone to pay to come over and help me get my first one up on itunes. Thanks to Sophie who sat with me through a lot of the frustration, and though she is tech savy was stymied by my particular roadblock. Finally it was solved with Patric figuring out the final piece once my hosting site problem was solved.

I ended up going to my naturalpath doctor who told me my corpus callosum had crashed under the stress! That’s the part of the brain that connects the two hemispheres and a crash basically means your hormones start firing improperly and you feel super crappy. He set me right and am back on track. It took a village! Thank you village.

Once you know how to do something it’s embarrassingly easy. Now I have other problems to solve like adding descriptions and pics to each individual episode and understanding how to spread the word.

Onward.

A Women’s Body is the Breadbasket of the World

08 Sunday Mar 2015

Posted by wendelmeldrum in humour, Philosophy, sex, Women

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female empowerment, feminism, International Women's Day, Women

Everyone that ever lived was formed inside a women’s body. We owe our physical form to a woman. We nestled inside her and lived off 25% of her blood supply. We all emerged from a woman whose body is designed to care for us. One would think that a culture would have developed to learn from and nurture this form, in turn, building a world that respected her what she produced from her body – people!

Instead we grew to battle against the truth of our bodies because we are enslaved by cultural ideas that shame and control a woman’s body robbing us of the intimacy, grace and appreciation of our true home.

How is it we all share this first home but evolved not to ask mothers how we should be to ourselves and others? Why didn’t we value her innate wisdom and build upon her ideas about how to get through a day, plan a community, share our food supply?

How perverse we have become, hurrying our children to fit into a society that values our shopping ability over our humanity. Unconnected to our subtle instincts we push our biologies like machines, then medicate them. A greater crime than polluting the earth is how we have polluted the body of women – her image used for sexual fuel to be judged as to how much she is getting everyone off. And then we ask her to be silent. Who can listen to ideas while masturbating?

The programming is deep and often subtle. I participate in it as well as I am raised in it. To know it and to live it are a chasm apart.

Are women even inside women anymore?

Yes, they are. Their bodies know. Under the fashion and nail polish and dieting every woman is gifted with the voice of biological creation. There lies our hope.

Here’s the book for more;

 http://www.amazon.com/What-Woman-Because-Absurd-Planet/dp/0692245146/ref=la_B00MFRRKQS_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1417552473&sr=1-1

OR in Canada you can order it here;

http://www.amazon.ca/What-Woman-Because-Absurd-Planet/dp/0692245146/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1417553755&sr=1-1&keywords=pinkyluxschoolforgirls

Onward!

Give the Gift of ‘Women Explained’ – Finally!’

02 Tuesday Dec 2014

Posted by wendelmeldrum in humour, Philosophy, sex, Women

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Christmas Gifts, female empowerment, feminism, Gifts, Human body, Philosophy, PinkyLuxSchool, Sexuality

What better Gift for a Man, Woman, Teen, Couple or Undeclared Human than to finally unravel the idiotic ideas about women that have been masquerading as Fact.

Don’t allow yourself or a loved one to go into 2015 carrying around the same old crap in their bonnet.

Get the book!

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If you order from me in the next two weeks (until Dec. 16th) I will wrap your book(s) in this lovely pink ensemble;

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And include a message of your choice on this lovely note paper;

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So email me at wendel@wendelmeldrum.com OR in the US go to Amazon;

 http://www.amazon.com/What-Woman-Because-Absurd-Planet/dp/0692245146/ref=la_B00MFRRKQS_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1417552473&sr=1-1

OR in Canada you can order it here;

http://www.amazon.ca/What-Woman-Because-Absurd-Planet/dp/0692245146/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1417553755&sr=1-1&keywords=pinkyluxschoolforgirls

Onward!

Get a Free Book!

28 Thursday Aug 2014

Posted by wendelmeldrum in humour

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I would love you all to have my book!

I am offering a Giveaway on Goodreads that ends

 Sept 25th and ends with me mailing 9 books to 9 people.

People from 120 different countries can join!

 https://www.goodreads.com/giveaway/show/105551-what-is-a-woman-because-it-s-absurd-to-be-one-on-planet-earth-etc

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The Book is now Available!

06 Wednesday Aug 2014

Posted by wendelmeldrum in humour, Philosophy, sex

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female empowerment, Human body, PinkyLuxSchool

With deep appreciation to all who have been reading the blog, the book is now available in many countries!

 I think the ideas in the book make it a perfect gift. It looks like a Dr.Suess book, each chapter is only a page, there are lots of pictures, built to inspire through laughter, rethinking and the odd fact. Perfect for a man, a woman, a teen, women’s shelters, bridal showers, charities, a bookstore or a bathroom this book is designed to share. Read it, sign it and pass it on – old school viral. As you know it’s my belief that it’s our misperceptions about women that keeps the madness in place.

Here are some locations that it should be available. Please let me know if they are happening. It’s been a bit clunky so far!

In Canada;

http://www.amazon.ca/s/ref=nb_sb_noss/176-2598955-2817406?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=pinkyluxschoolforgirls

In the US;

http://www.amazon.com/What-Is-Woman-Because-Absurd/dp/0692245146/ref=pd_rhf_se_p_dnr_1

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/s/pinkyluxschoolforgirls?keyword=pinkyluxschoolforgirls&store=book

In United Kingdom/Europe;

http://www.amazon.co.uk  or  www.bookdepository.co.uk  or www.thebookcommunity.com

In Australia;

http://www.rainbowbooks.com.au or www.thenile.com.au

Onward, Ladies!

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Finally …News!!!

15 Tuesday Jul 2014

Posted by wendelmeldrum in humour, Philosophy, sex

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female empowerment, Feminist movement, PinkyLuxSchool, Sexuality, Women's rights

             Yes, it has been forever since my last post…Super true!!!

The wonderful reason is that I have been working on a book inspired by my blog. This way you can have something tactile and visceral to hold while mulling and musing over what a woman is. It will definitely be a page turner and perhaps a lovely gift to inspire rethinking about the Undercarriage and such.

It’s set to go to the printers next week so fingers crossed all goes well.

Soon.

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Women, Gossip & Competition. Yup it’s time!

23 Wednesday Apr 2014

Posted by wendelmeldrum in health, humour, Philosophy

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female empowerment, gossip, Health, Women

You know by now that we are searching beyond feminist thought. Feminist thought remains a reaction to a patriarchal system that itself needs an overhaul. We are laying down a philosophy that begins and strives to remain true to the simple fact that everyone’s first home was inside the body of a woman. Children are what women produce. Children become the world. What the hell is going on.

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It’s time to take a look at excavating that pernicious veil that culture tosses over us as a survival tool – competition and gossip!

Gossip is a currency of cruelty that we are taught to use as a way to empower ourselves by bringing another person down!

Most often a lovely lady!

Gossip is part of the culture of competition where we make a ‘winning’ or ‘losing’ out of every choice that another human being makes as they attempt to live out their bag of tricks that they were handed as a child. Gossiping is a way of shaming and criticizing in absentia and boy does it feel good! Tasty morsels of ‘I am right’ delicious bonbons of ‘aren’t we better than’, glorious chats between people that are bonded by the common cause of diminishing another while harvesting a feeling of winning!

No wonder women struggle to have a voice! They are being nitpicked about their every move by other women!  It would be quite shocking for woman to become known for discourse over new ideas that aren’t about nail polish, body image or love problems!

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You know what’s in your conversation.

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