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Episode # 6 – ‘Thoughts, Think, Idea’ plus Cops and TM

02 Monday May 2016

Posted by wendelmeldrum in Child development, David Lynch Foundation, LAPD, Parenting, TM, Transcendental meditation

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Child development, David Lynch Foundation, female empowerment, Feminist movement, Human body, LAPD, mental health, TM, Transcendental meditation, women's group

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I have been doing TM(transcendental meditation) since I was 19. And though I have explored other forms of meditation – chi gong, when i was doing martial arts, kundalini and buddhist meditation – TM remained my base. I had only gone back to have a TM ‘check’ twice in all these years.

So, then…

My chiropractor comes into town about once a month and I went to have an adjustment at his latest pop-up location which happened to be, the David Lynch Foundation, meditation center. I got talking with Lynne  Kaplan, who is a TM teacher and she invited me to come listen to a speaker and have a group meditation . Meditation has been such a private thing for me all these years but the women’s group that met once a month felt compelling.

I have been going now for several months and find it to be very nourishing. Lynne starts by asking a question which we all give a quick answer to, then we meditate, then we have a tasty snack and listen to a speaker, which leads to conversation. The time is always charged with honesty, strength and courage of women living on the cusp of their quest.

Last Sunday, I walked in to find two gorgeous women in full LAPD uniforms. They had both recently begun TM and were going to give a talk. So in their Kevlar vests, with their gun belts, wool uniforms and sturdy shoes on we all meditated together. That alone was pretty astounding. Meditating in a yoga class, sure. Meditating in a park, on a bus, in a laundromat, at the beach, sitting on a curb, sure, done and done. But never have I meditated with two fully uniformed police officers.

What does Rumi say “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there”. Well, that’s what happened, and with cops – our cultural’s perfect image of all things right and wrong. That’s the image that invokes fear of being weighed and measured, found guilty and punished that we hold over from childhood. And to go into that field with cops, yeah, it will change you.

Lead officers Julie Nony and Maggie Dillard are twenty one year veterans of LAPD. They told of their journey into compassion, of how just being a woman cop often neutralizes hostile situations and that some cops are assholes.

TM is bringing mediation into schools and it’s helping children. The LAPD is open to offering meditation as a tool to officers. Julie and Maggie bring a whole other kind of courage to their job when they come and meditate with the people they  serve and protect. How about cops and kids meditating together? Hmm interesting.

So for Lynne Kaplan,  Julie Nony and Maggie Dillard I dedicate this podcast to you.

Episode #6 is about our pesky mind and how it is not designed for frustration and worry. Enjoy!

 

 

Episode #5 – ‘Saddest History Ever’

23 Saturday Apr 2016

Posted by wendelmeldrum in Child development, History, humour, Parenting, Psychohistory

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Child development, female empowerment, history of childhood, Human body, Joseph Chilton Pearce, parenting for a peaceful world, Robin Grille

When I was a teenager I read ‘Holy Blood, Holy Grail’. It was a retelling of the story of Jesus by three different scholars using historical data. I didn’t come from a religious family but was aware of the basic plot points of the biblical Jesus. The thrill of having my brain scaffolding of ‘what I thought was true’ collapse from factual repatterning is something that I have sought out ever since. Robin Grille’s book ‘Parenting for a Peaceful World’ was one of those books. It is shocking and loaded with information that I feel is important to know. If you dare get yourself a copy.

In the book, Grille, mentioned a man, Lloyd de Mause, as being someone who he was getting information from. So, now this is some ten years ago, I went to New York City and met Lloyd in a coffee shop. He had a soft spoken passion and seemed like a man who was worn from swimming against the main stream. He gave me some literature and I signed up for a year of his newsletter. He was a corner stone for an international movement of historians relooking at all things ‘childhood’.

For many years,  my bedside table Bestie has been the books of Joseph Chilton Pearce. His ground in the truth about childhood development it essential reading. I was honoured to introduce him as a speaker when I hosted the 50th anniversary of the Highland Hall Waldorf school.

So, I present, Episode #5…for you.

You can got to itunes –

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/what-is-woman-because…its/id1088536792?mt=2

Or just click on the podcast link above.

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Thank you.

Stranded between Religion and Science

12 Wednesday Nov 2014

Posted by wendelmeldrum in Anxiety, Art, Parenting, Philosophy, politics, Religion, science

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Arts, Philosophy, PinkyLuxSchool, Religion, Waldorf education

Teaching Science, teaches thinking through a system of demonstrable facts. This system can be quite shocking when applied to religion.  All sorts of mental gymnastics ensue when trying to fit the mythology of religion into a scientific structure. Trying to prove religion can often lead to launching logical thought off of unfounded premises giving the appearance that logic and reason are in the house.

This also happens with science. Much of science that is bandied around in the culture such as quantum physics and the big bang theory are just that theories, not facts. Yet absolute beliefs in the way that life works eg: the creating your own reality cults that have sprung from quantum theory are acting more like a religion than a science in many cases.

Religion comes from ancient texts that are finite. We watch science evolve before our very eyes and our belief systems adjust as we learn more. In our lifetime the shifts in perception that genetics alone has given us are breathtaking eg: all biological organisms carry DNA, all humans came out of Africa, and until recently our culture believed we were at the mercy of our genes alone and now we know that genes get turned on and off from external experiences. Imagine if we had stopped science at the point where we had learned we were at the mercy of our genes? That would be a religion in the making and a false one that would lead to limitations and prejudices.

But in our culture science is owned by corporations. Discovery not for it’s own sake but funded to be commodified. It too often carries the stamp ‘how much money can be made from this, what drugs can we develop from this new discovery, can this be a tool for war,’ not ‘who are we, what is the world?’.

What do we hang onto then? Why are so many taking medications for this plague of depression and anxiety? Has leaving religion and embracing science, which is owned by the corporate sector, left people without basic human comfort. Because there is such a stigma on religion and science is a part of commerce and commerce about positioning, networking, winning, filling our minds with ‘how to get’ rather than ‘how to be’ we have become a nervous mess. What are we missing?

In their pure form outside their use to manipulate for gain, the feelings of faith, patience, kindness, comfort, generosity, empathy, love, grace, peace and wonder, are there for us to have.  They offer us nothing except the experience themselves – the reward of patience is patience. Though we often associate them with religion they were not invented by religion but are states innately available to all that have been given names and context through culture and religion. Turning away from religion and into a cynical society focused on gain have we left behind those states of being because they can’t push our agenda forward and are associated with dead religions?

Certainly this planet goes on and on despite what religion is in vogue, what government is in power, what is being taught in schools. Whatever we discover about the macro world, the micro world or our inner world we are all just riding on planet earth with our feelings of love, peace and wonder available for our pleasure, for their own sakes. Lucky us, at least we have that.

Science is always on the move and requires us to remain fluid. It is only limited by our questions. It is not an absolute and never can be as questions are infinite. That makes Science an Art. Let’s not treat it like a religion or only for the sake of the market.

Reclaim your birthright of faith, hope, peace and love. Do it with Art – poetry, painting, singing, dancing and science. That’s what Art is there for.

Arts in school? Yes but for their own sake not to please a parent, win a prize or groom a child for the marketplace but to allow them to remember their nature and to stir kindness and generosity in with their school work. Art is medicine.

The Greatest Sport of All!

05 Wednesday Mar 2014

Posted by wendelmeldrum in humour, Parenting, politics

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female empowerment, obama, parenting, Politics

People identify with sports with a hunger that at times seems unnatural. But if you are one of those people that cares where the ball goes, holds your breath to see a number flashed before your eyes or leaps to your feet when a perfect specimen of humanity makes a super human effort, not for the sake of beauty itself but for a win, you understand the mysterious passion of ‘the game’.

Science tells us that our body responds to the mere watching of sports. The elderly are being put in front of sport and exercise programs as the viewing gives them a mini work out. Olympic athletes build neural pathways that improve performance by watching! We ‘win’ and ‘lose’ to the depth of our unconscious when hooked into sport. We transpose sibling rivalry, cultural hopes and fears, and self worth onto players and outcomes. Sure  we entrench the idea that there are sides to be on, winners and losers, celebration and shame but also witness mastery under pressure, teamwork and the seemingly impossible manifested.

But are we missing out on perhaps the greatest game of all? That ancient, pan cultural and most primal of games, peek-a-boo? The greatest of all metaphysical puzzles I am here/I am not here so beautifully interpreted in a game that brings both laughter and tears. Is this not the corner stone of the sports enthusiast as well as the enactment of  one of Shakespeare’s greatest lines to be or not to be. Is this the game that seamlessy combines sport and the arts? A game for the masses, all ages, all cultures, no language barriers, no winners and losers?

Sometimes you are here and sometimes you are not.

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It is true and deep and profound and yet playful and chilling at the same time. It is politics and parenting and quantum physics all rolled up into one. It contains life and death and holds the penultimate riddle – where do I go when I am not here?

Babies know some heavy stuff. We don’t give them enough credit. Let’s bring peek-a-boo out where it belongs. Into the main stream. It’s the visceral game our teenagers should be playing. It’s the game that would uncloak the realities of politics. It’s the relational game that the world needs to overcome cultural misunderstandings and come together in the realization of the basic truth of our lives. Let’s come out from behind our baby blankets and bring this profound game out where it belongs – in every corner of the world.

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Obama and Putin. Let’s do this!

Mothers, change the world!

11 Saturday Jan 2014

Posted by wendelmeldrum in humour, Parenting, Philosophy, politics

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Elizabeth Warren, female empowerment, Hilary Clinton, Politics, Women's rights

Not just because women’s produce is children and these children in turn produce all that humans ever have and will ever produce but also because mothers have already changed the world. The pain and fortitude of mothers has produced change in laws.

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Who is a mother?  You might be one and not know it. Yes, to be sure, we all have a mother and came into this world after being carried under her heart. There is also ‘one who mothers’ which can include anyone when they engage themselves in ‘bringing  up with care and affection’. ‘Mothers Against Drunk Driving’ did not give up until they had created a law infused with the care and affection that they knew so well.

It’s too bad that Mothers and mothering are not more popular in the business and political world. A corporation is not a person because it did not come out of the body of a woman. It’s a good thing that ‘mothering’ isn’t interested in being popular and has a great internal engine that can stay the course and get things done. Are we all not ‘bringing up’ the world at this very moment! Of course we are!

Don’t think mothers are strong enough! Mothers are so powerful that many people often have a deep unconscious hate for their mother and feel as little out of control babies if they think of being kind and thoughtful. It certainly seems that way! Time for them to have a snack and nap while we organize and vote!

Do you think mothering is too soft, too mamby-pamby to turn this ship around. Then you don’t know mothering. Mothers are fierce and perhaps should be the only ones deciding who will die in war or for a crime. Those who brought life into this world are the only ones that have the true knowledge of when it’s right to take it out.

It’s not the time of the great mother mythical spirit, nor the goddess but actual mothers, real mothering, from you – your care and affection and grit and grace.

Our time to bring up the world is now and you know it.

Let’s gather.

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Add a picture of you and/or someone who mothered you in the comment section.

Here at the PinkyLuxSchoolforGirls we are dedicated to creating a movement that evolves the perception of women, inspiring inventors of new thought, new industry, new stories and a new world.

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Stop trying to be a Hero!

07 Saturday Dec 2013

Posted by wendelmeldrum in humour, Parenting, Philosophy

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Arts, Father, feminism, Mother, Parent, Women and children first

And stop raising children to be Hero’s!

Let’s raise them to be mothers and fathers instead!

‘Mother’ and ‘Father’ the verb!

To mother, to father.

Not to save the world but to take care of it!

 Not bunches of punches but listening!

Imagine! Industry being run with the spirit of taking care of everyone and yes that means nap and snack every day!

Government leaders who were mothers and fathers first would rethink sending children off to go kill other children! Ce ne pas possible!

Everyday, mothers and fathers suck it up, get over it, accept and move on, dig deep, go beyond, rise above, figure it out, push to the limit, push some more, invent a way, make it happen, pull it off, hope for the best, stand up, hold out, hold on, try again, never give up, embrace, hold, struggle. Why?

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 Because love trains them.

 Too corny? Not ironic enough? Not ‘winning’?

Not to be rude but you are here because nobody managed to kill you. However crap you feel your childhood was I bet there were more ‘heroic’ moments in caring for you than in all the super hero stories ever told.

Mothering and Fathering are an attitude, a point of view, a perception. They are not gender or age specific and can be applied to anything and anyone. They are part of your basic package in the art of being human. They are probably the reason why you like all those cat pictures. They offer; being bigger than your circumstance, including all, accepting things as they are, patience, laughter, grit, gratitude and the most nurturing sets of eggs and balls you will ever encounter.

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Isn’t that enough?

* This post has nothing to do with the fact that there are almost no female super heroes and hardly anyone ever even says Heroine.

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