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Epstein, Ghomeshi and Cosby Walk into a Bar…

04 Wednesday Feb 2015

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…and Charlie Rose is there waiting to interview them. That would be no joke.

Jeffery Epstein is a convicted pedophile, Jian Ghomeshi is about to go to trial for  multiple sexual abuses and Bill Cosby has been accused of raping and drugging women.  These three men have been collectively accused by more than seventy young woman. Google these men, all three are very current affairs.

Seventy young women. What do you think? Are they all lying? Even if some are, how many others didn’t come forward? If you think most are telling the truth what is going on in our culture? Are women’s voices finally been taken seriously? Is this an opportunity to realize how we look at our values, what is sex, what is power, what is a girl? Are we raising young girls, to accept being in service to men’s objectification in hopes of obtaining their own money and power? What does this do to our boys who become our men?

The young women’s stories are of being hunted and groomed to satisfy a fetish. A culture that uses sex to sell, fame like a religion and money as it’s highest goal should expect nothing less.

Young girls without aware parenting and grounded role models see their image as their power and sex as a commodity. And that the way that they look and trade pleasing for approval is the currency of being female.

The world that a parent prepares a child to come into should welcome the uniqueness and respect the nature of what that child is becoming. How quickly children become wards of consumerism and distort themselves to fit in. These young girls/women did not become victims overnight, they were bred, by all of us.

And now they speak up and are heard, so many at the same moment. But if Charlie Rose interviewed these three men it would be a joke – they and their high priced lawyers would deny all these women’s voices and things would go on as before.

And now Fifty Shades of Grey is about to open. Gee, Golly, Hollywood after years of seeing thousands of screen images of women being tortured, raped and killed now get a movie where a woman actually likes being tied up and screwed – oh, and the man is a billionaire btw. What progress.

Wendel Meldrum is the author of ‘What is a Woman’ Because it’s Absurd to Be One on Planet Earth, etc.”

How’s your ‘Dog on Dog?’ The Ghomeshi Scandal as Evolutionary Tool.

07 Friday Nov 2014

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By ‘Dog on Dog’ I mean our innate ability to sense another being through our whole body. Go to the dog park and marvel at the honest way dogs sniff, lick, tail tuck, snarl, snap, hump,rub, wag, play, bark, when meeting another dog. What are their bodies telling them – Is it safe? Can I play? Am I in danger? Should I run? Initiate a Game? Walk away?

We have our own ‘Dog on Dog’ response to ‘the other’ as well. Our challenge is our own unique imprinting through our ancestry, our family, our education, our community, our generation and our experiences that we have through those lenses. Our survival has many complex layers and filters that often contradict and override our bodies instinct. And unlike an animal we scent ourselves with deodorants, hair and body products, perfumes and colognes to mask our ‘smell’ which contains many secrets that ‘our animal’ can read with ease.

‘Am I safe’ can be filtered through an opportunity to get a job over our personal safety. The hope of ‘being connected’ to a life we dream of can erode our standards of behavior. The dream of ‘finding love’ can mask our gut instincts.

Our immune system has one basic job, to determine what is self and what is non-self. Air, food and drink comes in and gets sorted into ‘Yup, this is health building or nope, not a healthy item, sending it out.’  Our immune system weighs and measures itself against our most precious gift – our homeostasis, our innate equilibrium. Our whole being mimics this process as we build our unique selves.

We spend much of our lives discovering who we are not. Which actions, decisions and thoughts are ‘who am I’ and which are ‘who am I not’. Recovery from being a victim of a sexual assault (yes, it happened to me too) is a deep and profound rising up, peeling away, re-grounding of what it is to be ‘Walking While Woman.’

I hope we are not just waiting for the next newsy soundbite in the Jian story or the next shocking news story to take our attention for a few days. Beyond justice and victim/perpetrator identities are the voices of women to be heard in how we educate, govern and treat people. Because a woman’s body is designed for patience and survival through nurturing she asks not what is good for the economy but what is good for humanity.

Can women even hear their own deep wisdom anymore?

The answer is yes, yes they can.

If they listen for it.

If you listen for it.

Jian Ghomeshi and the deeper Questions.

28 Tuesday Oct 2014

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I write this blog as a response to the Jiam Ghomeshi Facebook post, https://www.facebook.com/jianghomeshi?fref=ts, the Toronto Starr article  http://www.thestar.com/news/canada/2014/10/26/cbc_fires_jian_ghomeshi_over_sex_allegations.html and the many articles and comments  spawned by them. I take it as an opportunity to look deeply at our culture and put forward some questions to ask ourselves.

We often talk of objectifying women, how deep does our objectification go?

objectify –  present as an object

What do we mean by ‘object.’

object –. anything that is visible or tangible and is relatively stable in form.

Now I ask you, does that sound like a woman?

It does describe something that we would purchase, shop for, want to own.

Did our consumer culture come first or did expecting women to be ‘visible or tangible and relatively stable’ come first? Did you think it was funny when ‘relatively stable’ was put with ‘sounds like a woman?’.

Can you feel the difference of how woman live on the inside of themselves vs. how they are treated from the outside? Can you feel it in yourself?

Are you aware of the manipulations women do to themselves in order to feel, safe, loved and employable? Sure, make-up, hair and wardrobe but also inflections in their voice, pleasing, scanning for the boundaries of ‘where is safety’, ‘where is rage’, ‘where am I’.

Are you asking a woman, who inhabits the greatest biological design ever evolved, you know the one – the one from which you emerged from, what she thinks about the world, what she would like to invent, what her philosophy of life is? Or are you too busy thinking about what to say next or how to get what you want from her or maybe glancing around for someone who will give you a better sexual hit or maybe advance your career?

If we are objectifying women are we then objectifying what they produce from their bodies – children? Are children being raised to fit into the culture at the expense of fitting into themselves first?

Are you a woman who has been raised in a political/cultural/religious/artistic culture that has been built on the ideas of men and sit around criticizing and judging other women instead of developing your own ideas to help evolve us out of this mess?

We need your voice. Men need it, children need it.